Living As Peaceably As Possible

Monday, August 27, 2012

“If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men” (Romans 12:18 KJV).

Having recently listened to family members and friends discuss their struggles, my advice to them was simple—apply today’s Scripture.

Saints, today’s Scripture is clear. We should make every attempt possible to get along with others, especially with our Christian brethren (as always, please remember that we never, EVER compromise sound Bible doctrine for the sake of unity). But, there does come a point where we cannot resolve conflict, and we must leave the situation alone. Notice today’s Scripture: “If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.” It is not always possible to live peaceably, even with fellow Christians (which is so sad).

In fact, there are such deep divisions among some Christians—including myself—that they cannot be resolved until heaven. I have met people who cause their own problems, thereby making other people’s lives—and mine—miserable. We all make mistakes, but what makes it sadder is that even after they are warned repeatedly, they continue in their error, with little to no remorse.

When dealing with these kinds of people who absolutely refuse to apply sound Bible doctrine in handling a disagreement, we must step back and say, “There is nothing more that I can do. It is time to leave these individuals alone.” Again we apply today’s Scripture and move on; otherwise we risk making the situation worse with hatred, bitterness, physical altercations, gossiping, cursing, et cetera.

Regrettably, sin causes squabbling, which results in division. Our “friends” will turn other friends against us, and divorce destroys our marriages and families. It is most pitiful when these divisions occur within the local church, disrupting the unity of God’s people and furthering the plan of the adversary (Satan). While we do “forgive [others] as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven [us]” (Ephesians 4:32), we are not to be doormats. In this sinful world, we cannot live harmoniously with everyone.

“If it be possible,” saints, “IF it be possible,” “live peaceably with all men….”

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2 thoughts on “Living As Peaceably As Possible”

    1. Hello Myra.

      1 Corinthians 7 is God’s doctrine regarding marriage, divorce, and remarriage in this the Dispensation of Grace (you can also see Romans 7:3-4). Notice what God through the Apostle Paul says is the only acceptable reason for divorce:

      “11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
      12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
      13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
      14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
      15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
      16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?”

      According to verses 12 and 15, the only acceptable reason for Christians to divorce today is an UNBELIEVING SPOUSE who wants to leave the CHRISTIAN SPOUSE (that is, someone who has not trusted the Lord Jesus Christ alone as his or her personal Saviour, wants to leave the one who did trust Jesus Christ). Now, read verse 39: “The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; ONLY IN THE LORD.” According to this verse, divorced Christians should not remarry until AFTER their ex-spouse dies. When a divorced Christian’s spouse dies, then that Christian can re-marry, but “ONLY IN THE LORD.” That Christian can only marry another person who is a member of the Church the Body of Christ.

      Regarding marital issues that gender divorce, a Christian spouse should forgive his or her Christian mate, by faith, by sending the matter to the cross of Jesus Christ, where God forgave both Christians in Jesus Christ. The wife should be “reconciled to her husband” and the Christian husband shouldn’t be willing to divorce his Christian wife (1Corinthians 7:11: “But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.”). I know it is difficult for a spouse to do, but rather than divorce, the spouse should forgive the other, and both should make every possible and reasonable attempt to stay together rather than divorce. (Spousal abuse is a special case, another matter entirely, and it should not be taken lightly either.)

      Hope that helps!


      According to the Bible, the test for spirituality today is what does the Lord Jesus Christ say through the Apostle Paul’s epistles of Romans through Philemon. Rather than relying on what Jesus said to Israel, which doesn’t make sense because Jesus wasn’t speaking to us Gentiles, we need to see what God says to US, the Gentiles, through Paul.

      As Gentiles, the ascended and risen Lord Jesus Christ sent Paul the Apostle to us Gentiles. What God has to say to us is in the writings of Paul, for Paul is our apostle. Paul wrote in Romans 11:13: “For I speak to you Gentiles, inasmuch as I am the apostle of the Gentiles, I magnify mine office:” And 1 Corinthians 14:37: “If any man think himself to be a prophet, or spiritual, let him acknowledge that the things that I write unto you are the commandments of the Lord.”

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